We live in a modern country called India. We are developing. We fired a rocket to moon. We are the biggest film industry. We are intelligent. We are the next big thing. We are blah blah blah. But are we really that modern, that great????
On one side we have reaped the fruits of outsourcing, our scientists are world renowned, we grow our own food grains, we produce our own steel, we do many other things but on the other side we have illiteracy, female infanticide, dowry deaths, khap panchayats, hatred in the name of religion, region, language and any other nonsense anybody can invent. These things show that the modernity has not reached into all strata of the society. The latest product from our great honourable society is, “Honour Killing”. And this is what I’m going to talk over now.
Every week there is at least one Honour Killing in the badlands of India. But what worries me the most are the Honour Killings from the so called modern urban areas. Whether Rizwanur Rahman or Nitish Katara or now Nirupama Pathak, the list is endless. Politicians are also a party to it and giving into the demands of the Khap Panchayats and are trying to get same-gotra marriage banned. There is even a demand that marriages in the same village be banned as well. In short, what they are demanding is that love marriages should be marriage. Inter-caste, inter-religion, inter-region marriages are already a taboo in this so called modern India! But I ask whether loving someone is such a big crime that they have to be killed! And that also by their own near and dear ones. Why can’t parents accept what their kids want?
I would request all the powers who are concerned to get out of their old rotten shells and embrace the modern world. Please stop moral policing and interfering in other people’s lives. Beware of the fact the Supreme One is watching and that day is not far when you have to pay back for your heinous crimes. No Panchayat, Association, relative and even a parent has the right to impose his/her dictum on a grown up adult. You may suggest what you want but can’t force it down the throat. Choosing the Life-Partner should be the right of every individual and that should be respected.
Please break the shackles of caste, gotra, religion, region and accept love. This is what every religion has taught which have been remodeled by the so-called custodians to their own favour.
Love & let love flourish…
Sunday, May 16, 2010
Sister: That I Don’t Have
I’m back from the trip from Bengal with memories of the trip still weighing in my mind. The trip has caused several effects on my mind. But one that has affected me the most is the fact that I don’t have a sister of my own!
In several of my blogs, I’ve mentioned that I hated the feminine gender. But lately I’ve realized my mistake. But still the need for a sister didn’t arise. I was happy with my very few feminine friends. But this trip changed it all.
I’ve a maternal sister, Bidisha, whom I didn’t like very much before. This time around I felt affection and love towards her right from minute 1. But what made me emotional enough to write this stuff are the sisters of Sanjay, Kingshuk & Anustuv; my friends whom I visited. The camaraderie these guys share with their sisters is phenomenal. The love, peace, tranquility, help, encouragement these fellows enjoy because of their respective sisters (they don’t even realize what they are having because it has become an everyday affair to have the sister for them) made me jealous to the core of my heart.
Even though I’ve a great younger brother, a sister, preferably younger or even older, would have been nevertheless excellent. My brother has wished for a sister for a very long time. He is lucky to have a girl who is a great sister to him. And he takes care of her like her own brother. We have one Rakhi sister but after her marriage the contact has declined to a bare minimum. And I’m not ashamed to say that I didn’t have any sibling feeling for her which I certainly have for Bidisha, even when I didn’t like her very much. I’m not a guy who can have sibling feelings outside my blood relations.
It’s my personal view that girls are more intelligent, reliable, supportive & understanding than their male counterparts. If in trouble, I always like to have views of a lady as it is generally correct and most importantly different than what I think. Seldom will a man have a different view. Also, they are good listeners and have an indefinable comforting aura surrounding them. Till now I have shared all my troubles, views, solutions, grief, happiness with my mother but there are certain things which can be shared with a person of same age only. And what better person it would be than your own sister! I believe a sister would have been a great stress buster. Her mere smile would have ended lot of my troubles.
I am a person who is hungry for love and care. I love to be pampered and I certainly love to pamper. And the pampering is always effective in persons of opposite sex. So, while sons are their mother’s darlings, daughters are more pampered by their fathers. Similarly, brother-sister relationships are stronger than brother-brother or sister-sister bonding. Although I like to pamper my brother, I would certainly have pampered my sister more. I would have bought gifts for her during all festivities and especially during Rakhi and Bhai-Duj. These are the festivals when I feel the loneliest. I believe if I had a sister, I would have been more social, more human, more understanding, more caring and more …. And yes I would have the elusive girl-friend as well… Fulfilling her demands would have given me a certain divine pleasure.
If I’m lucky enough to get married and then blessed enough to have a child, I would like it to be a daughter!!!!
In several of my blogs, I’ve mentioned that I hated the feminine gender. But lately I’ve realized my mistake. But still the need for a sister didn’t arise. I was happy with my very few feminine friends. But this trip changed it all.
I’ve a maternal sister, Bidisha, whom I didn’t like very much before. This time around I felt affection and love towards her right from minute 1. But what made me emotional enough to write this stuff are the sisters of Sanjay, Kingshuk & Anustuv; my friends whom I visited. The camaraderie these guys share with their sisters is phenomenal. The love, peace, tranquility, help, encouragement these fellows enjoy because of their respective sisters (they don’t even realize what they are having because it has become an everyday affair to have the sister for them) made me jealous to the core of my heart.
Even though I’ve a great younger brother, a sister, preferably younger or even older, would have been nevertheless excellent. My brother has wished for a sister for a very long time. He is lucky to have a girl who is a great sister to him. And he takes care of her like her own brother. We have one Rakhi sister but after her marriage the contact has declined to a bare minimum. And I’m not ashamed to say that I didn’t have any sibling feeling for her which I certainly have for Bidisha, even when I didn’t like her very much. I’m not a guy who can have sibling feelings outside my blood relations.
It’s my personal view that girls are more intelligent, reliable, supportive & understanding than their male counterparts. If in trouble, I always like to have views of a lady as it is generally correct and most importantly different than what I think. Seldom will a man have a different view. Also, they are good listeners and have an indefinable comforting aura surrounding them. Till now I have shared all my troubles, views, solutions, grief, happiness with my mother but there are certain things which can be shared with a person of same age only. And what better person it would be than your own sister! I believe a sister would have been a great stress buster. Her mere smile would have ended lot of my troubles.
I am a person who is hungry for love and care. I love to be pampered and I certainly love to pamper. And the pampering is always effective in persons of opposite sex. So, while sons are their mother’s darlings, daughters are more pampered by their fathers. Similarly, brother-sister relationships are stronger than brother-brother or sister-sister bonding. Although I like to pamper my brother, I would certainly have pampered my sister more. I would have bought gifts for her during all festivities and especially during Rakhi and Bhai-Duj. These are the festivals when I feel the loneliest. I believe if I had a sister, I would have been more social, more human, more understanding, more caring and more …. And yes I would have the elusive girl-friend as well… Fulfilling her demands would have given me a certain divine pleasure.
If I’m lucky enough to get married and then blessed enough to have a child, I would like it to be a daughter!!!!
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